I feel I am stuck. How do I let go?

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Mike Hart
Swansea, Wales
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Peter,
Myself and others constantly feel a limitation and wondered if you may be able to help. It's the restriction that the "mind set" places on us. I think we all probably feel a need to "let go" but find it very hard to do so. We realize the place we should be but have no real success in reaching that place. I know the ontological work would help this so getting to a workshop would be of obvious benefit. Also, when we train with you, this too gives us insights along this path. Ultimately I feel that we have to delve deeper into ourselves to make this breakthrough, but can you suggest a coherent path to follow until we can get to the ontology workshops? Is there a particular method(s) or area that you would recommend to focus on in our practice that would be of benefit to us with regard to "opening up" more, or "letting go" more effectively?
Best Regards,
Mike

Mike,
First, be cautious of jumping to conclusions too quickly. When you say you know where you need to be but aren't there, this may not be true. For one thing, what is true in such a case is that "where you need to be" is a concept. It has to be, since you've already admitted you aren't there. Therefore it must be a concept, an idea, a belief, a fantasy, hearsay. Now this notion will always be different in both substance and accuracy than the experience itself. This shouldn't be overlooked, since what is so is that the concept prior to the experience will always be wrong, even if it is technically correct. And this difference may prevent you from looking in the right place, so to speak. The second aspect of this is that you may be wrong, and what you need is not what you think. So the point is to stay open, even with communicationsfrom me. The only way to really get the communication is to experience it, piece by piece. Hearing is just
the beginning.

One place to look are the signals you are actually sending to your brain and nervous system. If you think you need to accomplish some result, then no matter what you say to yourself that you should do, such as"let go," your brain will direct a familiar course of action to get the job done in this moment. This will then be contradictory to the idea of letting go and so it seems like you can't let go. One thing you can do is make sure you give up trying to accomplish whatever it is you think you need to accomplish (i.e., pushing someone, throwing someone) and instead just let go of that goal and act without any concern for the result. You may well fail to accomplish what you want, but this is necessary if you want to break free of the habits and tension that are evoked when unconscious "intent" (and so neuro-signals) is sent simply by trying to accomplish something. The way you go about getting a result will be geared toward how you already do it. So when you merely consider action-result relations your brain will go down old paths. To challenge this reflexive tendency try having letting go be the result, and let the action succeed or fail as it will. Over time, as you are able to act within a different context you will be able to seek out how to make it work within this context.

Don't know if this response is aligned with our question. So let me know if any of this helps.
Peter

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